What a Postpartum Doula Really Does — Q&A with Raquel
Bringing a baby home can be beautiful, emotional, and—let’s be honest—a little overwhelming. During our latest Utah Prenatal Yoga “Ask an Expert” event, we invited Raquel, a postpartum doula of nearly 10 years, to answer real questions from local parents about what postpartum support looks like.
Whether you’re curious about hiring a doula, wondering how much they cost, or trying to plan your first few weeks with a newborn, these highlights from our live Q&A will give you a clear, compassionate look into what it’s really like to have one by your side.
What does a postpartum doula actually do—and not do?
Postpartum doulas can provide either daytime or nighttime support, or both.
Daytime: think light household management—laundry, meal prep, sibling support, emotional check-ins, and ensuring the birthing parent can rest.
Nighttime: typically 8–10 hour shifts helping with feedings, diapering, and gentle sleep training so everyone can get more rest.
Heavy cleaning and driving children aren’t part of the role, but every doula’s boundaries differ, so it’s worth asking what’s included or excluded!
How do we split nighttime duties when I’m breastfeeding and we also have a toddler?
Try splitting the night in half! One partner handles the early hours (for example, 9 p.m.–1 a.m.) while the other sleeps, then you swap. Pumped milk can extend rest for the breastfeeding parent. The goal is for both partners get at least one solid stretch of sleep.
When should I book a postpartum doula—and what if my baby’s already here?
Book early if you have someone specific in mind (as far as six months ahead), but it’s never too late—many doulas can take last-minute clients. Raquel noted it’s better to book and scale back later than to find no availability when you need it.
What if I’m a first-time parent and don’t know what kind of help I’ll need?
Start by looking at the support you already have: partner leave, family help, friends nearby—and fill in the gaps. Even one weekly doula visit can make a huge emotional difference. Knowing someone’s coming soon often gives parents a sense of relief and something to look forward to.
How does it work when both parents have leave?
Doulas can still play a vital role—whether that’s helping set up baby gear, guiding feeding or sleep routines, or offering a “welcome home” visit the first night back after the birth. Some families schedule shorter, more frequent check-ins to troubleshoot or adjust as they settle in.
What does breastfeeding support look like?
Nearly all postpartum doulas offer basic lactation support, from positioning guidance to recognizing when to call a lactation consultant. Those early days can be unexpectedly challenging, and having reassurance right away makes a big difference.
How much does postpartum doula care cost?
In Utah, daytime support typically ranges $30–$40/hr, nighttime support $35–$50/hr (sometimes higher for multiples or awake care). Rates depend on experience, training, and add-ons like meal prep or specialized support.
Can I add doula care to my baby registry?
Yes! Parents can create a cash fund or contribution link—for example through Babylist—so friends and family can gift hours of support. Just include a short description explaining what postpartum doula care is; once people understand its value, they’re often eager to contribute.
What do postpartum parents need most?
Raquel didn’t hesitate!! Sleep and Nutrition.
Rest is essential for mental and physical health and recovery. Doulas often help parents establish routines that protect sleep and keep nourishing meals on hand. She also emphasized reassurance and confidence—guiding parents to trust their intuition despite the noise of outside opinions.
What about babies with medical needs or NICU stays?
Most doulas are comfortable supporting families with premature or special-needs infants. Some have CNA or medical backgrounds; the key is clear communication and transparency about comfort level for both parties. Specialized doulas can also assist after birth trauma or surgical recovery.
How do doulas support partners and the rest of the family?
Postpartum support extends to everyone—partners, siblings, even pets sometimes! Doulas check in on partner well-being, help them gain confidence in baby care, and remind them to rest too. They also spot early signs of postpartum mood shifts in both parents and connect families with trusted resources. Here are a few helpful links for postpartum support like screening tools, support for fathers and support for LGBTQ partners. You can learn more about risk factors for postpartum mood disorders here, which might help you make some informed decisions about the type of care and support that could be most beneficial after the birth.
How can I communicate well with my doula?
Be honest and specific, even if it feels small. Raquel shared that many clients don’t know what to ask for—so she checks in with “What’s on your mental load today?” It could be as simple as a dirty window that’s been bugging you. Doulas are there to lighten that load so you can focus on healing, bonding, and resting.
“Our goal as doulas is to work ourselves out of a job—
so that you feel so supported and confident, you don’t need us anymore.”
Connect with Raquel at Starlight Doula Services on her website or on Instagram for compassionate, in-home postpartum care that supports your whole family.
